Secret sperm donor donated sperm to his aunt and lesbian partner

December 31, 2010 16:53 by PrideAngelAdmin
lesbian couple A 15-year old boy secretly donated sperm to his aunt's lesbian partner so they could have children, his parents have discovered.

Charlie Lowden's parents Charles and Lynn are now coming to terms with the fact that the two children they considered to be their nephew and niece are actually their biological grandchildren.

They only discovered the family secret last December after Charlie, 20, died following a routine hernia operation.

After his death it emerged that several years previously he offered to donate sperm - unofficially - to his aunt Sarah Ashman, now 40, who is his mother's younger sister, and her partner Claire, now 30.

He knew they had wanted to have a baby, but Claire had suffered a miscarriage after becoming pregnant by another donor. Claire Ashman, a beautician from Choppington in Northumberland, subsequently gave birth to a boy, Carlton, now five.

Three years later they asked him to donate again, which he did, resulting in Sarah, who is now two.

The lesbian couple agreed to keep Charlie's true identity as the father under wraps. However, his death forced his aunt to confess the situation to her sister.

Mrs Lowden, 52, said: "When our Charles died we were broken hearted. We thought we had nothing left of him. But there is. "I just wish that we had known about all of this before he died so that Charlie could know we had accepted it."

She continued: "When Charlie died, Sarah said I had no idea how special he had been to her – but now I do." Despite Carlton being "the spitting double" of his father, Mrs Lowden said she remained "quite oblivious" to the truth.

Even though Charlie used to grab the boy, hold him up to the mirror and laugh, "Who’s the daddy? I’m the daddy", Mrs Lowden still did not realise what he was saying.

The couple had wanted to call the boy Charles, but he refused, so they chose Carlton as a cipher name instead.

Sarah Ashman, who entered a civil partnership with Claire last year after 13 years together, said: "Charles was very special to me. He was great. When he died, it was our secret. But I had to tell Lynn. I couldn’t go through life not telling her because they are her grandchildren."

Mrs Lowden described knowing Carlton was her grandson as "just like having our Charlie back". "We’ve got the next best thing to him and it’s not a secret anymore," she said. "I’m absolutely delighted. He did it for a reason and he has left a legacy."

The secret father, a scaffolder, died last December after being discharged from Hexham General Hospital in Northumberland following a hernia operation. His parents claim he was not given protection against blood clots. His parents have launched legal proceedings.

Jim Mackey, chief executive of Northumbria Healthcare NHS Foundation Trust, said: "Mr Lowden died of a rare complication of surgery which we have fully investigated. "Our report, which we have shared with Mr Lowden’s family, showed areas of care where we felt we could improve and we have now implemented those improvements." A pre-inquest hearing is due to take place on January 20.

"Unofficial" sperm donation between individuals is not illegal, a spokesman for the Human Fertilisation and Embryology Authority said. But not using a licensed clinic means the donor remains the legal father, he warned. When carried out officially, sperm donors should be between 18 and 45

Pride Angel added 'If a known donor donates to a lesbian couple who are in a civil partnership at the time of conception, then the sperm donor would not be classed as the child's legal father'.

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Raised by a same-sex family?

December 29, 2010 17:38 by PrideAngelAdmin
same-sex family With the recent good news that Elton John and David Furnish are celebrating the birth of their baby son, it brings to the attention same-sex families and how children who grow up to become young adults view their gay family upbringing.

Research has shown that same-sex parenting does not affect a child’s self esteem or well being, although it would be lovely to hear first hand, about people’s views and experiences. We would love to hear any feedback from any older children, young adults or adults regarding their views about how it has felt growing up as part of a gay family, the ups and downs or reactions from friends or family.

The Telegraph would like to run a news article about this subject area and would like any help regarding the views of adults raised by same-sex parents. They would treat any information received in a confidential and sensitive manner.

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Elton John a dad on Christmas day after using a surrogate

December 28, 2010 16:40 by PrideAngelAdmin
David Furnish and Elton John Sir Elton John and his partner David Furnish have become parents to a son born to a surrogate mother in California.

Zachary Jackson Levon Furnish-John was born on Christmas Day, the UK musician and Canadian filmmaker told the Usmagazine.com website.

"Zachary is healthy and doing really well, and we are very proud and happy parents," said the couple.

They provided no details about the surrogacy arrangement.

"We are overwhelmed with happiness and joy at this very special moment," the couple told the website in a statement.

They said the boy weighed 7lb15oz (3.6kg).

A representative for the couple said they intended to protect and respect the privacy of the surrogate mother, and would not be discussing any details relating to the surrogacy arrangements.

Sex And The City star Sarah Jessica Parker and her actor husband Matthew Broderick had twin girls by a surrogate mother in June last year and in 2008, pop star Ricky Martin also used a surrogate to have twin boys.

Sir Elton and former advertising executive Mr Furnish met in 1993 and were joined in a civil ceremony in 2005.

Last year the couple tried to adopt a 14-month-old HIV positive boy from Ukraine named Lev.

However, Ukrainian officials said Sir Elton, 63, was too old and his civil partnership with Mr Furnish, 48, would not be recognised as a marriage by Kiev.

In December, Mr Furnish told the BBC that they were working to ensure Lev and his brother "have the best health care, education and family options available to them".

Article: 28th December 2010 www.bbc.co.uk

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IVF single embryo transfer best for baby

December 26, 2010 20:10 by PrideAngelAdmin
IVF embryo Women who have one embryo transferred during IVF treatment are five times more likely to give birth to a healthy baby than those who receive two embryos, research shows today.

Those who have two embryos are more likely to get pregnant but are at greater risk of delivering a premature or low-weight child, researchers found.

The findings, in the British Medical Journal, will increase the pressure for double embryo transfer (DET), which is already discouraged, to be ended because it risks pregnancies involving twins or triplets. UK fertility clinics should halt the practice as multiple pregnancies put mother and child at risk, the researchers say.

Twin and triplet pregnancies are associated with a higher risk of miscarriage, as well as prematurity and low birthweight. But some fertility experts say the widespread lack of IVF treatment on the NHS, which is meant to offer three free cycles to all, means some women seek two embryos.

An international research team, led by Aberdeen University scientists, studied data on 1,367 women who had taken part in eight previous trials who had either had elective single embryo transfer (eSET) or DET.

A full-term birth, at least 37 weeks, after eSET was nearly five times more likely than with DET, they found. Women were 87% more likely to avoid a premature birth after eSET, while their chance of having a low-weight baby was only a third of those who had DET.

The researchers say "elective single embryo transfer should be the default position" for all the 35,000 women who undergo IVF in the UK every year.

The Human Fertilisation and Embryology Authority welcomed the study. Its policy of minimising DET use has helped see multiple pregnancy rates after IVF drop from 24% in 2008 to 20% last year. The regulator hopes to reduce that still further, to 15%, by the end of March 2012.

Article: 23rd December 2010 www.guardian.co.uk

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Wishing you a Merry Christmas from Pride Angel

December 24, 2010 14:17 by PrideAngelAdmin
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IVF treatments for lesbian couples double since 2007

December 22, 2010 19:13 by PrideAngelAdmin
lesbian family and two children IVF treatment's popularity has soard this decade.

The number of lesbian couples undergoing IVF treatment leapt from 176 in 2007 to 350 in 2009, according to figures reportd by Mail Online.

In 2008, the Human Fertilisation and Embryology Act allowed for the first time two mothers or fathers to be named on a child’s birth certificate.

It also removed the requirement of a father figure in the child’s life in favour of “supportive” parenting without regard to gender.

Gary Nunn, of Stonewall, said: “Now the law has changed it has made it fairer and easier for them to get treatment.”

Norman Wells, the director of the Family Education Trust, who disagreed with removing the requirement of a male figure, said: “It was always inevitable that removing the legal requirement to consider the need of a child for a father would result in a rise in fatherless families.

“The change in the law had nothing to do with the welfare of children and everything to do with the desires of adults to subvert the natural order and redefine the family to suit themselves.”

1,070 single women underwent IVF treatment last year, a significant increase on the 2007 figure of 347.

The figures were recorded by the Human Fertilisation and Embryology Authority, the body established to regulate IVF, the storage of eggs, sperm and embryos, and embryo research.

Article: 20th December www.pinknews.co.uk

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Sperm donors deserve more praise

December 20, 2010 22:32 by PrideAngelAdmin
praise for sperm donors A FRIEND recently revealed he had fathered a baby. No cigars though, just a carefully worded statement. "I have been told there is a pregnancy, but I don't know the mother, or when the baby will be born."

Say again? My friend explained that after 20 years of thinking about it, he had become a sperm donor. Which made the whole thing a bit tricky. Is a pregnancy something a donor also gets to celebrate?

My friend saw my dilemma and said he wasn't going to have children of his own and at least now he would have the satisfaction of knowing he had helped a family achieve its dream.

That is a generosity of spirit I hadn't considered before. We often sing the praises of organ donors, but who gives thanks to the sperm donors?

My friend said the journey wasn't easy and there were the doubts: "Am I up to the job fertility-wise? Will I feel too old if a child seeks contact 20 years later? What would my partner and family think about it?"

He admitted it was a tug on the heartstrings knowing that he would never be more than a donor number and that another man would be the father of any children.

But just the same, he gained a lot of satisfaction from the thought that any parent who went down the track of IVF was "OK in my books".

"Full marks to any man who consents to accept donor sperm as part of his efforts to become a father. And praise to his partner for helping him through such a time," he said.

I was so touched by his motivation and how deeply he had considered all the factors and yet I think most of us take the whole process of sperm donation for something to even snigger about, to our shame. The fact is many IVF clinics desperately need more donors.

You need to be altruistic -- as there is no payment -- and committed, because new laws now require a lot more effort. And, disappointingly, all accessing IVF must now have criminal record checks and counselling sessions.

Donors must also accept that any child born can make contact with them when they turn 18.

Some may struggle with that, but my friend said, if anything, that helped his decision to become a sperm donor. "Everyone has the right to know their genetic heritage," he offered.

In my mind requiring a criminal record consent is an insult and only adds a further layer of stress to couples already doing it tough.

Dr Russell Dalton, director of Ballarat IVF, called for some debate about it. Perhaps the new State Government can look at this. Over to you, Mr Baillieu.

Article: 19th December 2010 www.hearaldsun.com.au

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'Fertility tourism' clinics urged to partner across borders abroad

December 18, 2010 22:05 by PrideAngelAdmin
fertility abroad European fertility clinics are being encouraged to collaborate and ensure fertility patients receive safe and fair access to treatment abroad, according to guidelines approved this month by the European Society of Human Reproduction and Embryology (ESHRE).

The ESHRE code of practice generally supports cross border care as a means to provide people with fertility problems more options for treatment. But it says clinicians must share information to maintain recommended safety and ethical standards.

Among the recommendations, the guidance emphasises transparency and open communication between foreign and home clinicians in order to ensure complete medical record information is made available for long-term follow up of treatment. Collaboration may also save expense through avoiding unnecessary or repetitive tests.

The code of practice also addresses the issue of multiple births, which carries health risks to mother and child. It recognises how some people who travel abroad for treatment may be reluctant to accept single embryo transfer for fear of incurring additional expenses of further treatment and travel.

In an effort to reduce multiple births, the guidelines recommend single embryo transfer for surrogacy arrangements but stopped short of extending the principle to non-surrogate fertility treatments. It felt women may choose to assume the risk of transferring up to two embryos pregnancies themselves but that the risks were not acceptable for surrogates.

The guidance also encourages fertility clinics to adopt policies to prioritise home needs over foreign demand for certain reproductive services that face scarce resources, such as those requiring donated eggs. The code of practice recommends home clinics should meet resident fertility patient needs first before turning to international care.

The varying reproductive laws and clinical standards among European countries raise particular concerns for patients seeking fertility treatment abroad. The Progress Educational Trust dedicated its 2010 annual conference in November to cross border fertility care at which was discussed ESHRE findings, recommendations and future investigations.

ESHRE will publish the guidelines on its website this week or early in the New Year.

Article: 18th December 2010 Bionews 589 www.bionews.org.uk

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Egg donors abroad - exploitation and risks of donation

December 16, 2010 10:21 by PrideAngelAdmin
egg donor babies How desperate women around the world are risking their lives to feed a booming - and deeply disturbing - trade in donor eggs.

Somewhere in the world, Nastya Kanatova has three children. She doesn’t know if they’re boys or girls, she has no idea if they have her blue eyes and button nose — and she never will. Five years ago, the Russian was so poverty stricken that she cashed in on the one commodity she had left of any real value — her fertility.

Her husband had left her, she had two young children to feed and little income. In desperation she sold her eggs, on six occasions, receiving £200 a time from a local IVF clinic. The resulting embryos were implanted in British, German and Russian women.

‘I was told three babies were born,’ she says of the transaction. ‘At the time, I had no special feelings towards them — I was giving my genetic material, nothing else.

'I was happy to know that my eggs would help someone who was desperate to have the joy I get from my own children. But, as time went on, I found myself tormented by questions. ‘In dark moments, I feel a sense of loss about them, an emptiness. I have ­children I will never know. I ask myself: “Are these children OK? Are they happy? Will they ever feel deprived by not knowing fully about themselves, never knowing their biological mum?” Because, in the end it’s not just ­biology, is it? It’s human emotion, too. I gave them life, yet I feel consumed by guilt.’

Her emotions are not unusual. Around the world, demand for human eggs far outstrips supply — a situation that can lead to women such as ­Nastya being exploited and then left to deal with the mental and physical consequences. And with the global market booming, things are unlikely to change.

Kylie Minogue recently announced that egg donation was an option she and her partner, Spanish model Andres Velencoso, were now considering, fearing that ­treatment for breast cancer will have affected her ability to conceive naturally. And only last week the Mail revealed how Carole Hobson, a single 58-year-old former barrister, is expecting twins after becoming pregnant with eggs donated by a 24-year-old Indian woman.

But what Carole, Kylie and thousands of desperate women like them often don’t realise, is that there can be a dark side to the joy of ­conceiving by IVF with donor eggs, a side that involves desperately poor women around the world being exploited for their youth and fertility in countries where there are scant regulations. Private, UK fertility clinics are only allowed to reimburse donors up to £250, even though they might need to take ­several days off work to donate. As a result, not enough volunteers come forward.

The fact that donors can now be ­identified when the resulting child turns 18, has shortened the supply still further. Therefore, many UK clinics have links to foreign centres with a ready supply of donors. No wonder hundreds of British women aged over 40 are flying to places such as Spain, the Czech Republic, Russia, Ukraine or Cyprus where there is no waiting list. And, to further add to the appeal, their treatment is often a fraction of the cost they would pay in the UK, if they self-refer.

In Russia and Ukraine, where poverty is rife and wages pitifully low, donors can receive up to £600, with £200 bonuses for extra eggs. When Nastya became a donor she was earning less than £300 a month at a ­chemist’s shop, a sum that was entirely eaten up by her rent and food bills.

‘I saw an advertisement from a clinic wanting women to sell their eggs,’ she recalls. ‘They were helping couples who couldn’t have children, some from abroad, others from the old Soviet countries. ‘They gave me a medical which includes blood tests and a sexual health screening, and phoned me to say I’d been accepted. ‘I had to have a course of injections, which led to some unpleasant side- effects. I felt exhausted. ‘There were headaches, and pains in my lower abdomen. After each injection I suffered reduced blood pressure, giddiness, and sometimes it was hard to walk afterwards. Nobody told me how bad it could be.’

In fact, donating eggs can be very ­dangerous. In the UK, it is considered inadvisable for a woman to donate more than three times in her life, compared with Nastya’s six in just a couple of years. Donors are injected with ‘follicle ­stimulating hormone’, or FSH, which puts their ovaries into overdrive, producing more eggs than during a normal cycle.

But in one to two per cent of women, this can result in ‘ovarian hyper-­stimulation syndrome’ or OHSS. ­Symptoms in mild cases include nausea, diarrhoea, vomiting and weight gain, and in serious cases shortness of breath, chest pains, blood clots and death. According to a 2006 article in the scientific publication Nature: ­‘Specialists in reproductive ­medicine say there is insufficient information about the long-term risks of drugs used to stimulate ovulation, a practice that has become more common in the past 25 years, with the proliferation of IVF and assisted reproduction. ‘But some studies have suggested the drugs may be linked to the development of certain cancers.’

Advice issued by the NHS says there is also ‘inconclusive’ evidence that a donor’s risk of developing ovarian cancer during her lifetime is multiplied from 1 per cent to 4 per cent. Then there is the risk that by helping others conceive, donors are risking their own fertility.

Hillary Green became an egg donor in the autumn of 2002. She was ­studying for a PhD at a university in the American midwest. In the U.S., clinics regularly ­advertise on college campuses and in student newspapers, offering enticements up to $100,000 for good looks and high IQs. However, according to one expert, the amounts actually paid are usually below $10,000. When Hillary was 29, and needed money so she could spend three months finishing her dissertation, she agreed to become an egg donor. ‘I got paid $2,700,’ she says. ‘It was the worst decision I ever made.’

Hillary developed OHSS and ovarian torsion, where the ovary becomes twisted — yet twice she returned to the fertility clinic and was told there was nothing wrong. On the third visit, she was rushed into surgery and had to have the ovary removed. ‘I was in hospital for two weeks and lost 25 lb,’ she says. ‘I nearly died and felt I had done something stupid in donating, but I thought that at least I had got away with it. Then, almost five years to the day of donating, I was diagnosed with breast cancer. ‘Neither my mother, grandmother or aunts had breast cancer. I was tested to see whether I had a breast cancer gene and I didn’t.

‘It turned out to be a hormone-dependent cancer and I’m convinced the drugs I took during the donation procedure in some way caused this.’ Hillary eventually had to have both breasts removed. In spite of the potential dangers, no research has been conducted into the long-term physical or ­psychological effects on donors.

The Centre for Bioethics and ­Culture Network, in the U.S., recently produced a film entitled ‘Eggsploitation’ in which a series of women describe terrible side-effects from egg-donation. The centre’s president, Jennifer Lahl, says: ‘None of these women show up in any statistics ­anywhere, because nobody cares. ‘The fertility industry in America alone is worth £5 billion. Why would they do follow-up work on donors if they might find bad news? It is nothing short of scandalous.’

In the UK, the Human Fertilisation and Embryology Authority confirmed that no follow-up research has been conducted on the physical or psychological effects of donating eggs. Dr Tony Rutherford, chairman of the British Fertility Society, argues there is ample evidence to suggest donation is safe, and he says respectable UK clinics make every effort to ensure the foreign clinics they send patients to are careful about the provenance of eggs and the welfare of donors.

Nevertheless, concerns over exploitation remain. In one case ­under investigation in Cyprus, police discovered three young Ukranians who said they had been selling eggs to the Petra Fertility Clinic near Limassol four times a year for three years. The clinic has been used by many British women. But, alarmingly, when police raided the clinic in May, there were no medical records kept of donors or recipients.

One shocked officer, investigating the case said: ‘In short, these women were turned into egg ­producing machines.’ For this battery production, the women were paid just £400 for handing over around 100 eggs each. But when you consider that the minimum wage in the Ukraine is about £40 a month — it’s easy to see the appeal. The problem for many IVF ­couples in the UK is a lack of ­information offered by overseas clinics. The issue of egg donors is often shrouded in mystery.

‘You are just sent over there by your clinic in the UK and you have to take everything on trust,’ says Jane McDonald, 36. She and her ­husband Tom, from ­Birmingham, went to Spain for three courses of treatment costing £25,000. None was successful. ‘We asked all sorts of questions about the egg donor, about her ­welfare and background, whether she’d had counselling, but we just got general non-­specific answers.

We were assured genetic testing had been carried out and that she was healthy and hadn’t donated only because she needed money, but we only had the clinic’s word for it. ‘You’re desperate for a baby so you believe what they tell you. Looking back, I feel that the way the whole system is structured leaves the ­potential for exploitation wide open. There are ­desperate people at each end of the transaction, in the middle there are people ­getting rich.’

Dr Francoise Shenfield, of University College London, is Britain’s top authority on ­fertility tourism and an ­executive member of the European Society of Human Reproduction and Embryology (ESHRE). She is ­convinced the donation procedure is safe, but has concerns about donors’ long-term mental well-being.

‘If you can avoid OHSS then there are no long-term physical side-effects that we know of,’ she says. ‘However, we can’t say the same about the psychological effects. It’s very possible that five or ten years down the line some of these women could be having regrets.’ That is a sentiment Nastya and Hillary can certainly ­identify with. Nastya remains haunted by her lack of knowledge about her ­‘children’. ‘I know some women in their late 50s and 60s are being implanted with embryos. What if such a woman died, leaving the baby I have helped to create with no mum? I will never know. ‘There’s another feeling, too — that I’ve been used, I’ve sold my body. I have a friend who worked as a ­prostitute to pay for her studies. She said how she felt dirty and, ­sometimes, I feel the same way.’

Hillary’s torments are physical ones: ‘The irony of all of this is that it looks as if I can’t have children. We’ve seen doctors and they have recommended egg donation and IVF, but I’ve told them they must be crazy. I wouldn’t expose my body to that again. ‘Besides, I wouldn’t want another woman to take that risk for me.’ Some details have been changed to protect identities.

Article: 16th December 2010 www.dailymail.co.uk

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Study exploring single women considering motherhood using donor sperm

December 14, 2010 20:32 by PrideAngelAdmin
single mother Susanna Graham, a PhD student at the Centre for Family Research, University of Cambridge, is undertaking a study exploring the experiences and decision making of single heterosexual women in the UK embarking upon motherhood through the use of donor sperm.

The study aims to better understand the issues and factors important to women embarking upon single motherhood by choice, to hear their own thoughts and feelings about their situation and the choices they are making.

Taking part in the study would involve you being interviewed by the researcher about your reasons for pursuing motherhood alone, the decisions you have made regarding how to embark upon single motherhood and your experiences so far.

If you are currently thinking about or trying to get pregnant as a single heterosexual woman and are interested in finding out more about this study then please email Susanna at smg57@cam.ac.uk

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